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How to make Good Conversation on a Date!
Have you ever wondered how you can find and learn new ways to improve your conversational skills when dating or, have better and more meaningful conversations in general? Well here's a few little insights into what we humans want to hear and like talking about to inspire and help you. Just remember when using these tips, to be sincere - we don't want to encourage manipulation but help you to make yours and others' conversation great!
The road to someone's heart!
The trick here is to find out what makes the other person enthusiastic! The road to someone's heart is to talk about the things they treasure most.. listen carefully and ask questions!
Compliment (...but not flattery!)
Honestly try to find something to admire in the other person. This will be easier with some than with others, but if you look and you'll be able to find something - even if it's a simple as an attractive name!
Everyone likes to be complimented and doing so will cause the other person warm to you and open up, thus making the conversation better! If you can do this you'll be amazed at how well the conversation flows! Any compliment has to be truthful though - false flattery is transparent and normally used by people who have no real interest in you. Avoid this.
Make good conversation without saying anything!
A friend of mine had a few things on his mind and he suggested we met for lunch. Walking round a local park we talked about past and present and I asked him a lot of questions about himself. To my surprise later on that day he commented "what an interesting person I was to talk to!" - when all I had really done was ask questions! - people like talking about themselves!
Our recomended books on making good conversation!
How to Win Friends & Influence People
A book by Dale Carnegie. This best selling author offers practical advice and techniques for how to make conversation more interesting and rewarding. Far from being a typical modern quick fix self help book this book really offers fantastic well considered conversation al advice - not designed to manipulate as one might expect but develop genuinely strong relationships with friends and colleagues!
Our top tips for making good conversation
- A great tip: Before you meet, find out something about what the other person is interested in. Do a bit of research!
- If you're meeting someone for the second time, and you don't know them very well, anything you can remember that they said about themselves will be useful if the conversation needs kick starting!
- Do as many things between now and your next meeting to ensure you'll have loads to talk about!
- Staying up on current affairs is a must for interesting conversation -- watch the news and read the papers!
- Give exclusive attention to the person you're talking to. Listening intently naturally pleases someone!
- To be interesting be interested! Ask questions that lead the other person to talk about the things they enjoy or their achievements. Restrain your natural instinct to talk about yourself unless conversation runs dry. Letting the other person do the talking is always a winner! Everyone prefers talking about themselves to listening to you harp on!
- And finally - discuss yes!.. but never argue or get into serious debates - at least on a first or second date. The the best argument when you're dating is obvioulsy no argument! Since someone has to lose an argument - if there is a chance of chemistry, you both lose!
- "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise." Of course, never obtain approval by flattery, but only by genuine praise or things that are really good - anything else will land YOU in trouble - forget the person you are flattering! Anyway - this is an old saying from somewhere (I can't remember where) which I think contains some wisdom! Remember wise sayings (as long as they line up with biblical principles) are OK - Solomon cellected many in The Bible - read Proverbs - one of the greates books in the world for wisdom!
This page gives you tips to learn the best ways to make good conversation and ideas for improving conversation skills when going on dates with 101Christian dating advice guide at fusion101.com 1999. Written by Fusion101 Christian Dating advice guide service for single Christians.
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