How
to make good conversation
©
2005 - Written
by Fusion101 Christian Singles
Dating & Chat service - pls do not copy
Ever
wondered how you can improve your conversation skills? Here's a few
little insights into what we humans want to hear and like talking
about. Just remember when using these tips, to be sincere!
the
road to someone's heart!
The trick here is to find out what makes the other
person enthusiastic! The road to someone's heart is to talk about
the things they treasure most.. listen carefully and ask questions!
compliment (...but not flattery!)
Honestly try to find something to admire in the other
person. This will be easier with some than with others, but if you look
and you'll be able to find something - even if it's a simple as an attractive
name! Everyone likes to be complimented and doing so will cause the
other person warm to you. If you can do this you'll be amazed at how
well the conversation flows! Any compliment has to be truthful though
- false flattery is transparent and normally used by people who have
no real interest in you. Avoid this.
good
conversation without
saying anything!
A
friend of mine had a few things on his mind and he suggested we met
for lunch. Walking round a local park we talked about past and present
and I asked him a lot of questions about himself. To my surprise later
on that day he commented "what an interesting person I was to talk
to!" - when all I had really done was ask questions! - people like
talking about themselves!
"be
hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise"
Our top
tips for making good conversation
1)
A great tip: Before you meet, find out what the
other person is interested in. Do a bit of research!
2) If you're meeting someone for the second time, and you don't
know them very well, anything you can remember that they said about
themselves will be useful if the conversation needs kick starting!
3)
Do as many things between now and your next meeting to ensure you'll
have loads to talk about!
4)
Staying up on current affairs is a must for interesting conversation
--
watch the news and read the papers!
5)
Give exclusive attention to the person you're talking to. Listening
intently naturally pleases someone!
6)
To be interesting be interested! Ask questions that lead the other person
to talk about the things they enjoy or their achievements. Restrain
your natural instinct to talk about yourself unless conversation runs
dry. Letting the other person do the talking is always a winner! Everyone
prefers talking about themselves to listening to you harp on!!
7)
And finally
the the best argument is no argument! Since someone has to lose an argument
- you both lose!
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