is Christian Friendship so important?
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is real Friendship?
Well.. C.S.Lewis says friends are people that are travelling in the
same direction, have similar aspirations and goals and encourage each
other in attaining those goals. Friends are not people that pull you
down, they're not people who are jealous (though sometimes that happens).
They are people who can handle your talents and gifts and help you
to develop them with thoughtful advice and direction.
friendship means caring and concern and a desire to people develop
- not jealousy and frustrating the other persons dreams and desires.
Friendship is DOING and not just TALKING. Friendship doesn't always
expect something in return. Friendship is critisising only to build
up the other party - there is such a thing as positive critisism and
as a friend you should be able to accept this kind of help.
do you Recognise True
become so because they recognise similar desires and personality traits
in the other person. It's like looking into a mirror - only the reflection
is not complete since nobody is completely alike. That's why friends
can sometimes share such a strong bond. Especially if they've shared
a traumatic or tumultuous experience together. Like old army comraides
or school pals.. it's not that you are exactly alike in personality
(though that can bring people together) - it's that you shared something
together something that profoundly affected you - like a love of a
particular type of music or even a football team. You are united in
your oursuits or perhaps your past.
grow apart too - and since friends (in the friendship sence) do not
share the same kind of love as lovers do, this is very natural and
happens simply because lives and circumstances change.
Christian Friendship = Accountability & Trust
true Friendship is had with someone you can trust. Someone you can
be accountable with and someone who will not take personal issues
outside your friendship. This can be called trust. Trust is the most
important factor in any friendship and once broken, its hard to get
back to where you started and involves forgiveness - another 'must'
in Christian friendship. Unfortunately humans have a tendency to gossip
so go easy when telling a new Christian friend all your personal stuff.
If it doesnt come back to yu then they can be trusted. First Samuel
20 talks about the friendship of David and Jonathan. These two men
cared deeply for each other and trusted and confided in one another.
David was running for his life from Jonathan's father Saul but Jonathan
recognized David was innocent. Because of their true friendship, David
survived Saul's assassination and became Israel's great king.
Christian Friendship = Time
giving time. Time in this part of the world believe it or not is our
most valuable commodity - not money. Giving time = sacrifice and true
Christian friendship involves giving some of it away and being generous
Christian Friendship = Forgiveness
friends won't always be your favourites - they will sometimes get
on your nerves and you may even wonder why you became friends in the
first place - but a true friend will forgive and nurture the relationship.
Christian Friendship in The Bible
Genesis 18:17-33 you can read about how God is sharing His intentions
with Abraham. The reason God and Abraham are able to do this is because
they trust and respect each other. Abraham responds by telling God
all his thoughts and feelings about this situation he's in.
Jesus give us this example of Friendship.
(John 18) Peter is afraid for his life after Jesus is led away from
the Garden of Gethsemane and denies knowing Jesus. As He is led away,
Jesus casts a look toward Peter that says, "I knew you would
deny Me, and I forgive you" (John 21).
Christian Friendship means nothing in return.
Genuine friendship loves not only for what it gets in return.
Real friendship looks at the heart, not just package. Genuine Christian
friendship overlooks faults and loves unconditionally.
Christian Friendship Speaks the Truth!
Genuine Christian friendship also means being truthful even
if it may hurt (be sensitive - nobodies perfect!) Jesus calls us His
friends and laid down His life for us (John 15).
Christian Friendship is a sign to others of God's presence
Genuine Christian friendship will affect the people around
you who will see how you love and care for each other unconditionally!
you looking for Christian Friendship?
True Christian friendship can be found at church and online
using one of the many Christian friendship services that have appeared
in the last few years.
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