Compatibility
Find your perfect Christian
match - are we compatible?
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2002
Written by Fusion101 Christian Singles Dating & Chat - Do not copy
Finding
a good match?... things in common are a plus and a few differences add
a little spice! Are you on a similar wavelength? - ask yourself these
questions and decide if you're a good match for your partner!
1)
Attraction
Since meeting your new friend, do you think of them often
- a warm glow perhaps! What about appearance -
did anything put you off?
Were your potential match fun?..
were you relaxed in their presence?
2) Common Interests
Finding
a good Christian match in terms of compatibility isn't necessarily about
having identical personalities as differences can compliment each other.
But it may be worth considering the following:
Do you
have common interests, tastes in music or anything else.
Do you spark each others imagination or was conversation dry.
(keeping in mind it's never that easy at the start since you know little
about each other)
Did you make each other laugh -
could you imagine spending more than a day with them.
Are you on a similar intellectual plane - Rocket science is
your favourite subject, but is it theirs?
Do your temperaments mix or do they clash?
Do have similar values?
Are you homely, outgoing or the socialite type?
3)
Lifestyle
Do
they have ambitions to reach the sky?
Would their future plans fit with you?
What about background - could any practical problems arise here?
(studies show people from similar backgrounds are more likely to stay
together - obviously not always the case)
4)
Friends
What
kind of friends does this person keep?... does this tell you anything
about them? - It should!
5)
Distance
It's
true that love knows no bounds but are you willing to travel to see
this person - and later on perhaps even move to their area?!!
6)
Mutual attraction
Did
their body language indicate that they were interested?
Did they part with a warm good-bye or a sigh of relief!!!?
finally . . .
What
to do if someone declines your offer of never-ending love!
Avoid the question -" what's wrong with me".
You'll probably get what sounds like a load of excuses that leave you
asking the wrong questions about yourself - like have I got a problem?
- No, the simple fact is that people subconsciously search for personalities
that are on their wavelength and sometimes it takes a while for people
to realise they don't fit! If you can figure out incompatibility early
on then it's saves a lot of heartache.
avoid
judging a book by its cover!
Some people take time to show their colours. There may
be a whole load of reasons why a person holds back or acts a certain
way. Take the time to get to know someone or you'll miss opportunities.
I've lost count of the number of times I've misjudged someone's character
by taking their first words and initial impression as to how they really
are.
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