Online
Dating Safety advice Guide
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Rules
The golden
rule is keep your anonymity safe. Ask lots of questions and
don't give out personal information (email / home address /
mobile). Start communication with Fusion101 internal mail system
- this means you are not giving out your real external address
- ie Hotmail etc.
Free personal
email accounts can easily be set up using Yahoo, Hotmail, Juno,
Mail.com and other free email services online. Don't communicate
with anyone who attempts to pressure you into giving this information.
You must
take time to get a good picture of the person you are talking
to before giving out ANY personal details. Don't ever tell anyone
your last name, home addy/phone - or even work information.
Basicly anything that identifies you. This may seem steep but
it's to protect you and whilst most people online are fine -
there are always gonna be 1 or 2 people out there you need to
avoid.
If someone
tries to pressure you into giving out details ignore them.
Don't take anything you are told or read as gospel - always
ask questions and probe (women esp politely ask as many questions
as you feel you need to:)
Some people
are just too good to be true so keep an eye out for this. Look
out for odd behavior and inconsistencies. Check spelling (yep
- that can be a giveaway for foreigners posing as someone they're
not:) Go with your instincts. Request photos (more than 1 as
sometime people steal photos from other dating sites). If you
get excuses, he or she is trying to hide something. There aren't
any good excuses for not sending or displaying a photo at all!
Discuss
a persons friends and if possible ask to meet them at some point.
A persons friends are a great indication of what someone's really
like!
Dont get
prematurely intimate or intimate at all unless you are sure
they are the one. No sex before marriage! Don't fall in love
at the drop of a hat!
Ladies -
the first time you use a phone - use a pay phone first :) A
phone call will tell you a lot about a persons communication
skills. Keep your number anonymous and use the conversation
to find out more. Talk to their friends, family, co-workers
etc.
Only share
your mobile or personal phone number when absolutely sure you
trust the person. Don't be pressured to meet, ask to speak to
the persons mother first. It's your call!:)
Be Patient
- don't meet too early! One of the best things meeting some
one online is you gain much more information before you meet.
You are under NO obligation to meet anyone at any time.
DO NOT DRINK
on your first or even subsequent dates ok:)
If someone
makes you feel uncomfortable - avoid them. Avoid angry people,
disrespectful or rude people - people who seem frustrated or
say inapropriate things.
More things
to look out for:
Consistency
on: interests, marital status, profession, appearance.
Someone who won't speak on the phone or won't answer direct
questions. Is the person totally different from the online dating
profile?
Are they happy to introduce you to friends or family - they
should be:)
Meeting the first time - don't go alone. Tell someone where
you are heading. Take a friend if you want... meet in a public
place, take a mobile phone and ask a friend too call halfway
through to check (a good escape route also!)
Do you think
you know everything about someone - think again.. this is not
possible. Just keep a happy positive and open mind but expect
the unexpected:)
Use your own transport. Don't allow a date to make your arrangements.
Want to
get out of there?..
Just get up and go politely. Better safe than sorry. Your safety
is more important than embarrassment or what someone thinks
of you.
Lastly -
don't think dating - think fun - have fun - all at 101!:)
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